Observations of Marriage on my 26th Year Anniversary!

OBSERVATIONS OF MARRIAGE ON MY 26TH WEDDING ANNIVERSARY.....

 Let me be perfectly clear on this one thing.... I now don't believe that anyone can "really" say they have a marriage until they have remained married for at least 25 years.  I know, it seems harsh, but true none the less.  After 25 years together a really wonderful thing happened - we realized that we didn't irritate each other any more and let me tell you, that's a big honkin deal!!  We had, surprisingly, earned enough respect from one another that we stopped impeding each other's progress.  It has been a wonderful discovery in the middle of the most challenging year in our marriage.  Isn't that just God's sense of humor at work, yet again, in our lives.... hahaha  I love that so much about my relationship with the Lord.  He promised me early on that He would provide a Coat of Armor for my personal "battles" but, He also warned me that the Suit of Armor would look beat to absolute Hell once I was done with it, but I would survive if I kept it on.  So, far so good on that...  Marriage is much the same way.  Dirk and I decided when we made this union that God would be at the center of our relationship as He would always want us to remain united.  I'm so glad we did and are.  i believe that in many ways God gave our marriage a Coat of Armor as well.  It has felt that way at times.  I am very thankful to God for my husband and children.  They are my inspiration to continue to Press on toward the Goal of the Upward Call of God in Christ Jesus.  As I did 26 years ago, my sweet husband, I dedicate the next 50 years to our Lord God for Him to keep us safely nestled in His loving arms.  

Thanks to all who are actively supporting our little family with your care and concern, prayers and laughter.  We are very thankful for you. 

 Us

 Self Portrait - :)

 My Fly Boy

 Somewhere over Illinois....

 Ta Da - My dismount was a 10!

 Blurry photo taken by this girl :)

 Beautiful Sunset ending to a perfect day....

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My Most Perfect Day Thus Far

So, most of you all know about the stuff with Dirk's flying and it's been a huge honking ordeal around here for, like, a year now or something... Anyway, Saturday presented itself the most lovely of fall mornings - trees changing color just bursting with pride all over St. Louis and temperature was just pristine for outdoor activity and all day, Eden and Dirk were like two little honeybees.... just buzzing here together and buzzing there together and whenever I walked out to the driveway to see Dirk talking to a Russian "driver" about picking he and Eden up, I was more than a little curious about what in the world was going on.  So, it's about 4:30 p.m. and the day is slowly going away and it's time for me to take JD to work so we head off together.  On the way, I actually started to tear up because I was sure that Dirk wasn't gonna take me to see Styx or Journey or Foreigner (all bands that I love dearly) at the concert that evening which was promised to be under a night sky for the memory books.  Once we drove up to JD's work, I saw Dirk and Eden sitting in this little table outside nursing drinks, so I joined them.  I was wondering why they were there...... they certainly seem like they are in a very GOOD mood - Eden looks just like she swallowed a Canary! :)  After sitting at the table for like, 20 minutes, finally, they pulled me across the street to show me - sitting there all by herself - a custom 250 Vespa Vingage in Portafino Green with my name on it!!!!!! and a white bow!   OMG! OMG! OMG!  That's right, it's OCTOBER and I've been married for 27 years to Peter Pan.... so glad I did that!


I drove off at 5:00 and came home around 11:00 p.m. that nite under the stars was way more glorious with Styx, Journey, and Foreigner playing in my ears while riding up and all over the world!!  For me, the question of "why on Earth would a mother, a woman with common sense, put herself in such danger"?  It's simple, really, when I get on my Vespa (her name is Flo now - cause I want to Go with Flo)  You know that feeling right before you ...... climax? WELL THAT FEELING LASTS FOR THE ENTIRE RIDE!  Now do you understand?  My wonderful hubby and kids gave me the most fun and joyful toy i've ever had for my 27th Wedding Anniversary!  Dirk - you are still "the bomb" to me, honey, thank you so very, very much!!  I love you bigger even!  

 

Lovely cry picture - but what can I say.

Here is where I actually realized that it was indeed mine - hand on womb means it's a big deal...

 I can't feel my legs!

Best Day ever Lived thus Far!

Advice for Beginning a Marriage

I've got a couple of nieces that have just married two soldiers.  Wow!  Exciting times are ahead for them both.  I was wishing on a star about 3 months ago, that there would be a way for me to give them some very sound and solid Christian advice as it pertains to marriage.  As you already know, I've been married for 26 years (in a month 27) to the same guy and it has taken some work on both of our parts.  I really hated the people who would just scare the pants off of you when you were just starting out.  The ones who were like, "OMG! You're actually thinking about marriage?  Aren't you scared it's a mistake?"  oh, yeah, that's helpful, thanks!  Of course, we are all scared that we've made a mistake - at first.  That's just it.... it takes a lifetime to completely put someone's mind at ease that you aren't going away.  You have to have gone through some ugly days and nights stuff together and come out the other end of it in tact... together.... always working on learning your partner's responses to certain things.  How does he act when he is really stressed financially?  If the man needs some down time - give it to him.  It's never pleasant to enter the house that has a "huge attitude" like wallpaper in EVERY room.  Right?  So, be gentle, respectful when he comes home.  Dirk has to deal with my big wart:  I can honestly say that "avoidance" has helped me out on many occasions for a while anyway.... but, it's really not the best tactic as it has a tendency to "out itself" on it's own.  The greatest tool to have in your tool chest if you are suddenly going through a storm together is:  wait for it:     TACT.  If you have tact with your partner, then you can keep communicating.  Okay, that's the first Hints to Make your Marriage Stronger In fact, that's just what I'll call these posts.  So, guys, if you really want to know how to make it a lifetime of joyful memories - just punch into this place for my very best "at bat".  I love you bigger than all of the raindrops X 1,000,006!  Auntie Sarah